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I recently started dating a guy I met in college. I’m very happy, except
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seven times the testosterone of the average male. So, the 24-hour porno mind Hans- bury describes is probably seriously extreme compared with what goes through your boyfriend’s mind.
Ask a man why he eye- humps a woman, and if he’s honest, he’ll tell you it’s be- cause she’s hot. But there’s an underlying (subconscious) reason: “Evolution makes me do it.” Because men only get pregnant in women’s revenge fantasies, they evolved not to seek committed “providers” as partners as women do, but to prioritize physical attrac- tiveness. The features men find beautiful in women — youth, smooth skin, pillowy lips, “neotenous” (aka child- like) features like big eyes, and an hourglass figure — are correlated with fertility and health.
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for one issue: For as long as I’ve known him, he’s fol- lowed Instagram accounts of attractive women with provocative photos, and he’ll “like” these pics. This really bothers me; however, I don’t want to be the over- bearing girlfriend. Why does he do this, and does it matter? –Disturbed
and liars and their partner into the enemy they have to keep secrets from.
There’s a certain kind of man who’s drawn to the sight of half-naked pert breasts, and it’s the kind whose eyes have yet to be plucked out by crows.
Consider that the guy set aside another strong evolved male preference — the long- ing for sexual variety — to be with you. In other words, being with you means a lot to him. Sure, he still spends time browsing in the online mall of naked and half-naked women, but browsing isn’t buying. Assess whether he seems to be a good person, a person of character, and a guy who consistently shows you he loves you and has your back. If so, your best bet might be staying out of his browser history.
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This does not change when a man is in a relationship, even if he really, really loves the woman he’s with.
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Men have perhaps 15 to 20 times the testosterone women do, and this seems to play a major role in how visually powered male sex- uality is. An episode of NPR’s This American Life featured Griffin Hansbury, who was born female and lived as a lesbian and then underwent sex reassignment surgery. Transitioning began with testosterone injections. Before starting testoster- one, Hansbury would see a woman on the subway and think: “She’s attractive. I’d like to meet her. What’s that book she’s reading?” With the testosterone injections, even noticing nice ankles on a woman flooded Hansbury’s mind “with aggressive por- nographic images.”
It’s important to note that Hansbury overdid it on the testosterone injections at first, giving himself two to
In brain imaging research by psychiatrist and neurosci- entist Hans Breiter and his colleagues, heterosexual men viewing attractive female faces showed increased acti- vation in the brain’s “reward regions”: areas involved in the anticipation of reward (also activated by food, drugs and money). The message to the man: “That’s rewarding! Go get it!”
The good news is we are not mental robots, slaves to our urges. In most men, the brain’s “go get it!” message simply leads to more looking, not nooners with the hot-erel- las of Instagram. Some wom- en consider looking cheating, and they tell their partner he’s not allowed to eyeball other women. Chances are this doesn’t stop the looking; it just turns men into sneaks
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