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Military Spouses Share Tips To Strengthen Any Relationship
What can all couples learn from military couples? Ha- waiʻi military spouses from the Cohen Clinic at Child & Family Service — a Mil- ilani mental health clinic that provides therapy to post-9/11 veterans, service members of all branches (including National Guard and Reserves), and their families — are sharing rela- tionship stories and advice.
Coast Guard spouse, stress- es the importance of pursu- ing your partner.
“By intentionally mak- ing the time to pursue our spouse like we once did, we transform our marriage to the way it once was and to the way we wish it would be again. My husband and I have pursued one anoth- er through various forms of communication (emails, texts, Skype, FaceTime, video messenger on Face- book, e-cards, sending stuff to one another’s work, scheduling mini-vacations, etc.), and not letting the challenges we face as a mil- itary couple get in the way of our pursuit for one anoth- er and the mission for our marriage,” Roberts shares.
Second, celebrate every-
As a Hawai‘i Army Na- tional Guard spouse, Sabey recommends celebrating everything.
practice being thankful. “Show your partner ap- preciation and gratitude daily to enhance your con- nection,” Abasolo says. “Recognizing the little things can go a long way, like a ‘thank you’ for doing
This article shares three lessons learned from their unique experiences that anyone can use to strength- en their relationships.
Air Force Reservist Tatiana Abasolo (left) shown with Donnie Pinto, is lead clinician at the Cohen Clinic at Child & Family Service in Mililani.
PHOTO COURTESY TATIANA ABASOLO
thing. Hanna Sabey is the because she specializes case manager at the Co- in connecting veteran and hen Clinic, also known as military clients with the re- the “resource concierge,” sources they need.
Third, don’t forget to practice gratitude.
couples, including the Na- tional Guard and Reserves, can call the Cohen Clinic at 808-204-4020 to request information about therapy. Couples do not need to be married to seek services. The Cohen Clinic serves anyone who the veteran or service member considers family. Therapy is available both in-person and via tele- health. For more informa- tion, visit childandfamily- service.org/cohenclinic.
First, pursue one anoth- er. In the beginning, it’s so easy to do, but as time passes, are you still inten- tional about pursuing your spouse? Jennifer Roberts, Cohen Clinic therapist and
Tatiana Abasolo, lead cli- nician at the Cohen Clinic, is an Air Force Reservist who is part of a dual mili- tary couple.
“Sometimes military families miss out on cele- brating special occasions and holidays together, so I make it a point to celebrate everything big or small from anniversaries or birth- days to getting an award in school,” Sabey shares. “Celebrations make every- thing more meaningful and memorable for us as a cou- ple and family.”
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